Everyone's a narcissist
You can say your not a narcissist, but deep down I am positive everyone is in their own way. If you say you aren't I am partial to believe you're lying. It's like peeing in the shower. If you say you don't, you're either lying, or you just haven't experienced how easy and time convenient it is. Same goes for narcissism. If you think you aren't, you probably just haven't honed in on the awesome things about yourself that make you unique in your own right. But just like a good shower wee, in proper moderation a little narcissism is never a bad thing!
Think about this; those who lack confidence do so because they generally do not have admiration for themselves or their character. Those who most like to view as narcissistic are oozing with confidence and complete adoration for themselves. Then there are those who are so narcissistic they make us want to throw them off a balcony, and from personal experience those levels are narcissists are bordering on sociopathic tendencies, and that's a whole other ball of wax and a blog that I would be so highly unqualified to write, but probably will anyway.
/ˈnärsəˌsizəm/ noun excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one's physical appearance. synonyms: vanity, self-love, self-admiration, self-absorption, self-obsession, conceit, self-centeredness, self-regard, egotism, egoism
Admittedly, I am many of those descriptions and the majority of my friends are too in some form, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Again, this is not a terrible thing!
It's all in the perspective you see it in.
Let's play out a scenario ~ You invite your friend to your kids 5th birthday party. Said friend has no children, and politely declines attending. You think that's selfish, and it totally is but think about if that friend showed up. They will probably say something inappropriate and make a kid cry, offend the mother of the kid in the corner eating wrapping paper, and so on. So, yes selfish to decline as your ride or die palaroo, but perhaps the best case scenario. Selfish people are not "Yes Men", and they rarely do things just to put others at ease. So they stay home while you have a successful children's birthday party with one less drunk, childless adult around.
Side Note: No, this is not a story about me, but please take heed. I have no children and drink a lot. I am not a prime invitee to parties for anyone less than 27 years of age.
It's all a perspective! Confidence is so often confused with narcissism, but there is nothing wrong with being confident in yourself and your abilities. I cannot reiterate that enough! Be proud of your shit!!! I would love nothing more that to crack a joke here for some comic relief. The reality is though, I am super hung over and this topic annoys me enough that I could probably write 10 more blogs about how sad it is that there is a whole generation of people out there without any self esteem because they get crucified by the internet trolls on all these social media platforms when they show a hint of confidence , then in the same breath will get double crucified because they are too shy or insecure and don't open up enough. How fucked is that?
How equally fucked is it that I am using the same social media platforms to try and boost this blog? I basically just shit where I eat. I am off to a great start!